Here is what I, the esteemed College Volleyball Coach (I can only refer to myself in the third person when I am already referring to myself under my pen name third person. It used to drive me to eat broccoli when I would listen to football and basketball coaches on my former campuses constantly refer to themselves in the third person - they were so comfortable with it that I surmised this must be a seminar available in their coach's association convention), suggest :
1) Send another email to the Coach, and then follow-up ASAP with a telephone call to get clarity on the JO's.
2) During this email/conversation, be specific about what you expect. I would tell him you expect your daughter to play in every match. This is a reasonable expectation for the American division tournament, and respecting your daughter's recruiting desires.
3) If the coach will not commit to at least an every other match scenario, then I would say Thanks but No Thanks. Fool me once.........
4) Should the coach not respond, then you just saved yourself 3k, which is better spent on reaching out to more collegiate programs and going on unofficial visits! Or even camps; if you are in that rare situation where you are using college camps to evaluate the program. The club program did not present full disclosure when you joined, so I would be in no hurry to assist them again; you already did it once.
5) Don't worry about the Triple C's - Just tell the crazy college coaches which your VolleyPSA is in contact with, that your family had long standing plans for a summer trip (believe me, not too many CCC's are excited about Ohio; Atlanta? That could be fun. Miami? Great time on the beach. Dallas? Yes, everything is bigger in Texas. Columbus? O'what o?).
6) This was a hard lesson, but it will be priceless lesson come her senior year because I suggest you wait until the start of the 2013 club season before committing; this means your questions for next year's club will be impactive. You will be STUNNED about the late rush of recruiters for the senior club class next year. Just make sure your VolleyPSA is getting the necessary applications into her D3 schools because of their earlier admission review time frames.
7) Just think how much time your daughter will have to spend playing beach ball, versus grinding out indoor practices leading up to Nationals. Beach is a GREAT summer volleyball training environment!
Good luck and hang in there!
Thank you very much for your advice, Coach. No matter how many times I've read how important it is to be patient and to keep the stress level down during the recruiting period, it seems to creep back upon me. Your sound advice certainly helps and your humor brings me back to reality.
Having not received a reply to my email, I called the coach. Told him to be candid about playtime for all the reasons you outlined. He said my daughter is just a little bit behind the other middle, she certainly has the ability and has had some strong practices lately that would indicate she would play at JO's..... but that didn't sound like a real commitment to me. I told him it was unlikely we would attend, it's too much money to spend without a commitment she will play. I told him I'd let my daughter make up her own mind, but thought the odds were slim, she's pretty frustrated not understanding what her goals should be in order to play. He said he'd like her to attend (I still didn't hear a real commitment). He said he hadn't seen her frustration, she works hard in practice and has a good attitude. I still don't understand why he can neither commit nor tell me why she can't play, but I suppose I never will.
I'll probably have another question or two when Club season rolls around later in the year. Again, thank you so much for helping students and parents in their volleyball recruiting process. By the way, I think I've purchased 4 copies of your book.... I keep giving away my copy to parents who are even more lost than I (if you can imagine!). You can probably add a tag line to the title...... "saving the lives of volleyball PSA's and parents everywhere!"