Let me start off by saying, that a surprising percentage of college coaches are idiots. As a former college coach, and someone who is 'in the know' and still around the recruiting environment, I am continually amazed by just how big of a knucklehead college coaches can be!!!
Best thing you can tell you daughter, and tell her that this is coming from the world famous College Volleyball Coach, is it is a blessing in disguise! Just imagine this same scenario after a bad collegiate weekend of play (which every athlete has) and the college coach cuts her from the program; I can easily see the scenario happening based on what you told me.
Who knows why the college coach made that call? Again, so many of college coaches are dunces and trying to understand a dunce is a huge waste of your time!
1. She absolutely did the right thing to step up and do what the team needed - That is what players of character do, they do what the team needs! If a coach cannot respect that, then that coach has their own issues.
2. She is that much better having played all around; playing all around is awesome, playing three rotations would drive me bonkers!!! It sounds like she excelled in the first day, so that is a great affirmation, especially her first time in a tournament environment doing this.
3. College coaches shot gun recruit and the 2nd visit was set up because they probably set up 2nd visits for 20 players - It is a business and for whatever reason, they shut down the 2nd visit (again, blessing in disguise).
4. Tell her to do her best in the next couple of weeks; better to pass and attack as an OH. If she plays like she did on her 1st day, then she will get extra points as an OH who can pass. If she struggles, like she did on Sunday, then she will be marked as an OH who should go front and back with a DS, which is exactly where she started the year - There is really only a positive upside!
5. She should not be embarrassed, only thankful that she saw the true colors of that coach!
6. This is a good lesson for her and your family; as much as a personal rapport is developed, you must always, always, always remember that this is a business for college coaches.
7. Glad to hear you also have been in contact with other programs. Now, it is time for you to treat it as a business; start reaching out to many more programs, be businesslike in your review of the program, the coaches and the school - Apply the lesson you learned.
Tell your daughter to trust her skills sets and take full advantage of this no lose opportunity.