If she is faced with the same variables for next year, she should make the same choice - Trust her talent and play the position she wants to play!
Not really - The DI coach broke a major rule in the recruiting process; it is illegal to initiate contact with a current NCAA DI athlete, no matter if it was done through an intermediary.
For you to interact with any DI/DII coach, you would need to request and receive a Permission to Contact Letter from the Compliance Director in your Athletic Department. The Athletic Department has the choice to issue you a PCL or deny your request; which happens quite often. If you are denied a PCL, you have the right to appeal this denial with a non-athletics department committee (which I have never seen a SA win the appeal).
I would think LONG and HARD before moving forward with seeking a PCL and following up on this information from your former club team mate!