Your feedback and observations are correct. Many, many DI's are done, for now, with the recruiting process. And, for DI, the coaches are seduced by height, because height can be a hopeful indicator of potential ability. Volleyball is a height driven sport and in the middle position, coaches want that tall kid no matter just how good or not good she is because they can't teach height (and many coaches learn, they can't teach skill improvement).
At this point, the best thing to do is step back, take a breath or maybe an Advil and regroup because this is a slow time in the recruiting process.
1. After your next DI visit, put the recruiting efforts on pause. And DO NOT accept this schools scholarship offer (if they offer), if it is not the best fit - Panic buying is bad buying.
2. Finish out July with just having fun in the summer, as best you can - This is the slowest time for recruiting and the reason it is slow, is it is in between recruiting efforts and collegiate coaches are all in camp mode.
3. After she starts high school, put together a comprehensive list of schools which fit a rather wide range of possibilities - Academics, athletics, division, geography, ranking, etc. You mentioned that you did not think your initial list was big enough, so don't make the same mistake twice. You have an 'ace in the hole' - Your VolleyPSA's gpa and ACT score; this can easily open up many doors for significant academic scholarships with elite level DI programs. DI coaches love, love, love those talented walk on players who carry a huge ACT because they are 'free' for the volleyball program because the admissions office extends the scholarship money.
4. Many college coaches think they are done with 2013, but they are not. The reason? The 2012 season. A large number of scholarships will open up during the 2012 season. Kids get hurt, homesick, flunk out, are not good enough and get cut, coaches change jobs, etc., etc., etc. I was in Vegas 2 years ago and the number of DI schools actively recruiting the current Senior class was mind boggling. A former player of mine, who is now a DII coach went to Vegas this year and made the same observation (much to her chagrin because she was 'competing' with DI programs to recruit).
5. After you have assembled your list, and it should include all the colleges who said they were done, put together a highlight tape of her most recent matches, and her most current bio information. Send out all this information in mid to late October. Basically something to the effect; I am a 2013 Middle and if you have an opportunity arise within your 2013 classes, please contact me. By late October, coaches will start to know if they will have an opening. Again, make sure that the lists includes potential walk on opportunities.
6. Over the Christmas break, resend an updated outreach email to all schools with any post season awards and the current club information. Also put together another skills tape from the opening weeks of club training, to be ready to send out as a primer to the next point.
7. Absolutely go to the Las Vegas or Omaha President's Day weekend tournaments, in addition to trying to get into a high profile MLK weekend event (opening of the DI recruiting calendar).
I know it is hard to believe, but there are still going to be a bunch of opportunities late and after the 2012 collegiate season ends. Now, more than ever, stuff happens in college volleyball which results in late scholarship openings. The new protocol for DI recruiting is to recruit every year; this means freshman to seniors are receiving scholarship offers during the same calendar year.
Hang tough; take a few weeks break because there is nothing to be gained except stress until high school starts. Then, regroup and re-engage!