Glad I was able to assist you with your daughter's recruiting path.
The unwritten rule in collegiate volleyball recruiting, is that when a PSA verbally commits to a school, then they are not to be recruited any longer. What most coaches say, when told that a PSA did not commit to them, is good luck and please call us should anything change.
It is so disheartening to hear confirmation of my None and Done belief. As you may remember, I wrote a post called One and Done where collegiate programs are cutting players who do not develop at the level wished by the coach, and then they are pushed off after one year. But, I also referenced the rarer instances of the None and Done, where programs were verbally committing PSA's, but then not sending the NLI's if the PSA did not progress as believed.
Unfortunately, these instances of a collegiate coach pulling an offer, after a verbal commitment, could easily lead to continuous recruiting efforts until the PSA signs the National Letter of Intent, no matter if a verbal commitment has been made. This scenario is a bit frightening, because it will mandate an almost 'Open Season' on every PSA until they are signed on the dotted line. The honoring of the concept of a Verbal Commitment makes life easier on all parties.
But, let's not put the cart ahead of the horse. Hopefully this was just an isolated incident, for what ever reasons, and is not a trend. I can promise you that the majority of collegiate coaches still honor their end of the verbal commitment, and want to believe in the honor of such a commitment, from both sides of the equation. It is tough enough to recruit in today's environment, much less to do it in situations where verbal commitments have no integrity.
As a parent, focus on what you can control and that is gathering information while your daughter focuses on skill development and reviewing her future collegiate possibilities. As the grown ups, the parents must filter through the sunshine and smoke which collegiate coaches put forth as part of the recruiting process. This filtering, and gathering of information, will allow parents to find out/discover when a coach may have pulled an offer, or if a coach is known to practice the One and Done, or if a coach is a good person who does things the right way for the players.
Recruiting Times have changed in this generation. I don't like seeing families being pressured into early decisions, seeing coaches cut players after one season just because the coach over evaluated them or does not posses the training ability to make them better, and to have collegiate coaches pulling verbal offers before the signing of a NLI is so disappointing. Gone are the days of VolleyFamilies going through the recruiting process slow and steady, with unofficial visits, to home visits, to official visits before making a decision as a mature (comparatively) 18 year old.
As the recruiting game shifts to the younger years, it places families at a disadvantage and this disadvantage is one reason that I joined NCSA Athletic Recruiting; they ONLY have your interests in mind. Families are at a disadvantage in the early recruiting process because the PSA is a freshman or sophomore in high school, and the parents have not spent years in the mindset of recruiting. But, the collegiate coaches are very experienced in the arts of recruiting and this creates a disadvantage for families. You hope that it all works out for everyone, but with the noticeable increase of transfers, this is not happening as much as in the past. I believe that this site, and NCSA provide valuable information/support to help families manage these challenging scenarios. While it may take extra time, or money, for families to garner this experienced information, this is time/money well spent versus having to go through this recruiting effort again under the category of collegiate transfer.